These past days have been very confusing for me. Feeling like I’m playing house while the fate of my relationship sits on a razor thin edge.
I fluctuate between detached and clingy, angry and loving, feeling submissive and wanting to top the hell out of him.
Sometimes though it’s not a conscious response. Sometimes my submissive side slips through the cracks and it’s only after I realize.
I’ve asked over the past few days if there is anything he wants from me I just can’t bring myself to the robotic question of how can I be of service. I’m always met with a no or I’ll tell you if I think of anything. Like throwing a rock in a ocean. Still though I’ll tidy something or fold laundry or offer to make him a smoothie or ask him to put my collar back on me. Still I flounder around.
Last night I had the first emotional out burst. Sure I’ve cried but last night I left angry. I told him I didn’t have him come here to play house, as the tears slid down my cheeks and my hands shook while I fumbled to grab my purse.
Then I left.
When I came back his voice held the slur that sets my teeth on edge. The one that indicates he was self medicating his issues and was 3 coolers in. So I went to bed.
“I hate it when your voice sounds this way.” My voice was small in the darkness of my room when I was pressed against him. In my mind I screamed at myself for being so pathetic. “It’s not daddy,” I said as a tear slid down my cheek and I tried to get lost in his heartbeat.
There was that word again. That title that slips out when I’m sleepy or vulnerable or scared or hurting. In the darkness my mind mocked me over something I could not control.
And it kept me up for hours. The thoughts that circled around in my head. Until I woke up.
At his feet. My arms wrapped around his foot as if I could stop them from becoming metaphorically cold. As if I could stop him from running.
I was curled in a ball. My head burrowed against the blanket. And my mind sleepily whispered how pathetic I had once again become. Hoping a man sees the worth in me.
It’s when we are soft our true colours show. I took comfort from something he hasn’t gave me in a long time, and I didn’t even know I was doing it. Only at his feet, in the most vulnerable of places, could I relax enough to drift away.
When I woke up this morning I felt shame at my weakness. Then anger at my need to seek the feeling of submission. Then nothing as I sat up and wiped the drool from my face.
The things that make us can be the things that break us. The people who say love can shatter us. The things we fear and resist the most can give us the most tranquility. These days are turbulent to say the least. I’m just here bouncing around and waiting.